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Do I Have To Go To The Doctor; I Fell Down edition.
Can you call your doctor? They would be able to tell you if there are any symptoms that warrant an urgent care visit, especially if there is something relevant to your medical history.
Alternatively if you are insured, your insurance likely has a nurse hotline. You could call them.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 2:05 AM on December 19, 2017
When will I kneel again?
Do either you or your wife have skills you can offer in trade (ones you can still do while healing)? And friends who would need these skills? Perhaps you can build websites, and you have a friend who can do handywork. Or maybe your wife is a photographer (whose injury doesn’t impede her work). Or you can tutor students (ok, not a great season for that one).
Better to spend some time looking for ways to trade the work you can do for the things that you cannot, if any of… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 11:55 PM on December 17, 2017
Does a rainbow exist?
Hmm, of course I am at home and this not actually with my copy of Light and Color in the Outdoors, which is my favorite atmospheric phenomenon book. It is a little less technical than eotvos’ link (although still assumes significant physics background) and has some possibly relevant comments— especially for equalpants’ plate of beans above. In particular, it mentions that the generic distance of drops forming a rainbow is c. 1-1.5 km away. So, if anyone knows about how wide the sort of… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 1:13 AM on December 17, 2017 marked best answer
Golfcourses and bars... Where can one find men of say 37 to 44?
Quotes about agnosticism/atheism by way of science and nature
“The vastness of heavens stretches my imagination...Why do the poets of the present not speak of it? What men are poets who can speak of Jupiter if he were like a man, but if he is an immense spinning sphere of methane and ammonia must be silent?“
Feynman, from his lectures.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 9:55 AM on December 15, 2017
I can haz job for Christmas?
First off, congrats! This is an excellent problem to have.
Next- Slow hiring processes happen a lot in academia. (I got an offer more than 9 months after an interview, for example). I don’t think this means anything itself.
I think you like #1, but are rightly concerned about the attitude there. Which of these people will you be working with on a daily basis? Which ones (dept chair, head of interdisciplinary center, etc) will you rely on for… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 5:16 AM on December 10, 2017
Preparing for another CERN?
I don't know too much about this, nor really where you can get info, except that I am a physicist (and thus have actually been to CERN before). There's a few concerns that I've heard about from the user side, but I'm not really quite the right kind (I haven't spent months there, just a week or two here and there). If you wanted to hear from some of the actually correct kind of physicist (those who have lived or worked at CERN, or those who are frequent visitors) memail me and I'll put you in… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 1:37 AM on December 9, 2017
Leaving luggage in Beijing
The pipeline, women in engineering
Who is “we” here?
If you are looking at academic hiring, then searching for the terms faculty hiring, best practices, and implicit bias will get you lists of particular techniques hiring committees and universities can use (eg, finding reasons to rule people in to your short list, as opposed to finding reasons to rule people out).
If by “we” you mean faculty who are advising PhD students, then making sure to strongly promote your women students both within… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 10:21 PM on December 4, 2017
The bias is real and ingrained; yes, there is no quick switch to flip to make it go away (otherwise, somebody would have flipped that switch already).
But it's a worthwhile goal, if a very difficult one. See if you can (convince an organization to) track some proxy statistic over a large number of women and a long enough period to see if there are interventions that actually make a difference, then advocate for those. (I can't do much googling at the moment, but I know… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 5:28 AM on December 7, 2017
If it's not IBS-D what is it?
Did you have to take antibiotics for the food poisoning? If so could be caused by gut bacteria imbalance. There are probiotics available, and more extreme cases have been successfully treated with fecal transplants.
Of course it’s also possible the food poisoning was entirely coincidental, or maybe even a consequence of what ever gut issues were beginning to manifest already.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 5:59 AM on December 4, 2017
I might actually be why Keurig was invented...
Aeropress beats French press for ease-of-cleanup reasons. Some people might not know how to use it, so keep instructions (they are simple to follow).
Definitely get electric kettle plus something though, don’t get a dedicated coffee machine if you don’t use it much. That’s how you get ants. (Or it can be anyhow).
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 9:25 PM on November 30, 2017
Why make a house a Home?
We just bought, and it was clearly the right financial decision for us (mortgage is cheaper than either of our rent was before), but there are still downsides.
Since we started looking The House has been like an extra hobby that we can’t give up. What shall we do tonight? Work on The House. This weekend? The House. We had budgeted for some repairs, including a water heater in about five years; turned out we were in the house less than five weeks before it died. And even… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 1:55 PM on November 29, 2017
Short story collections for a Terry Pratchett fan?
Changing publication name mid-career as a trans academic?
Publication name may not feel very minor if your academic career is a big part of your life. I'm a cis academic, I've never changed my publication name, but I've known a few people who have (for various reasons, including gender transition). How big of an effect this will have on your life depends on how well-known you are and what career stage you're at.
If you are still applying for jobs (as in, you'd like a tenure-track position but don't have one, or you're looking… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 7:53 PM on November 26, 2017
Recommend birth-control pills to me
In addition to Mirena and Skyla, there are also Kyleena and Liletta for hormonal IUDs. Each one is a little different. (Kyleena and Liletta are smaller, Skyla and Liletta are approved for 3 years use while Mirena and Kyleena are both 5, Mirena releases the most daily hormone , etc). I don’t have any idea about how these differences would affect your situation but it’s good to know all of these options exist and to ask your doc which one is best and why.
Another word… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 12:44 AM on November 16, 2017
Best E-Reader Or Tablet For Physics Textbooks?
Personally I use a tablet. I had a Kindle for a while, but it wasn’t really doable and one of the ebooks of a textbook I got had a huge number of typos (they tried to put some equations in regular font, and that was a Bad Idea for a relativity textbook).
If it’s price that’s your concern you might be able to get a used one; honestly the best tablet I ever had for reading and scribbling was an old Galaxy note 8” (Not the current Note 8; it was actually 8”). I was so sad when mine died.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 11:29 PM on November 9, 2017
On the etiquette of complimenting an outfit
I think adding a “where’d you get it?” can make everyone more comfortable. As in “great shoes! Where’d you find them?”
That way the person you are complimenting doesn’t feel compelled to reciprocate, and they can start a conversation if they want to. (They can also give a short answer if they don’t).
I think it’s a rather uncommon question for a cishet man to ask a woman as well.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 1:10 AM on November 7, 2017
How to run for the US House of Representatives - Texas edition
If you are female, then She Should Run is an organization helping women run for office.
I think you’re right that no office should go uncontested— but I would argue this is true for more local offices too (state house, senate, city council, etc). This might even be more particularly true in a red state where the national climate has a stronger effect (on eg health care access).
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 9:17 AM on October 28, 2017
6 hour layover in Helsinki. No hydraulic press. What to do?
So, I'm doing the 6hr layover thing again, and realized there's a flaw in my original question: *I* don't like licorice, but some of my colleagues, family and friends do. Yes, the salty kind too. So, if there's something I should look for (and you notice this thread in review) do let me know!
Otherwise maybe this time I'll do either airport sauna or sea pool -- although I did forget my swimsuit so the seapool might be tough.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 12:45 AM on September 23, 2017
Help me Copenhagen and beyond
If you are in town on Sept 30 you should indeed go over to Malm?-- that is Gallery Night, when all the art galleries open in the evening.
I went by accident last year and had a great time.
Maybe back with more recs later but I am on a busy work trip-- in Copenhagen.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 12:30 AM on September 22, 2017 marked best answer
Places for food (and atmosphere):
Paludan book cafe, Gorilla (right next to WarPigs in the meat packing district), B?st, H?st or Relae for expensive but innovative and delicious (and weekday reservations aren't impossible). Kate's Joint for Thai-influenced fusion, Scurry Hub for straight up Thai. Cafe 22 for dining by the lakes if it isn't too drizzly.
Bastard Cafe is a board game cafe with a good selection. If you like board games there's also… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 1:12 AM on September 22, 2017 marked best answer
My little boy asked me to buy him a dress. I have questions.
Especially if your son decides he doesn't want to wear the dress out, take a look at some of the clothing lines bringing pink/purple/flowers etc to gender neutral or "boy" shaped clothes. This HuffPo article covers a bunch of kids' clothing brands that break down gendered assumptions about what designs go on what type of clothes.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 11:29 PM on September 12, 2017
What's causing my foot cramps?
In addition to electrolytes, footwear might be something to look at. There are many askme threads about different types of footwear, including for professional wear.
I have gotten foot cramps at various points, and both diet and footwear changes helped. For shoes, I currently wear Ziera at the (academic, so maybe not formal enough for your needs) office. At home I wear house shoes with good arch support-- sandals or bare feet seem to cause me more trouble. By… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 1:32 PM on September 4, 2017
Brands/clothing types for "healthy" female body type?
What sort of clothes is she looking for, and at what budget? If she is looking for business wear that will be a really different set of brands than if she's looking for casual outfits or clubwear. And the range of businesswear is also pretty huge; it might be helpful if you could name some styles she likes or particular clothing items she'd like to acquire, or maybe well known women who have both a similar body type and style to what she has.
Additionally women's… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 12:28 PM on August 13, 2017
How long should it take to get cough variant asthma controlled?
I also got diagnosed with asthma as an adult, and also have a strong dust mite allergy (among others; not cockroaches though so I can't say much about them). I will say that some drugs did not work for me and a few even seemed to make my symptoms worse (I'm looking at you, Advair combo -- likely due to the delivery mechanism, but still). Some drugs worked very well for a while; at the moment I'm not on any asthma specific drug (just antihistamines for the allergies). Switching climates… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 6:22 PM on August 7, 2017
Has anyone ever bought "The Shower Shelf"? Or know of any alternatives?
Battle of the IKEA sofa beds
I had a Friheten. I am moving across the Atlantic tomorrow, so I no longer do. I used it as my daily bed for the last year, and as guest bed for 2 years previous.
I found it quite comfortable, both as bed and couch. I particularly liked the chaise part for putting up my feet.
I think Friheten competes with American Leather for mefi pullout couch though, see this recent question.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 6:19 PM on August 1, 2017
Discuss negative Glassdoor reviews with my new employer?
Is it a suspiciously round number of bad reviews? I ask because a friend of mine recently had her small business receive 100 bad customer reviews-- from people who were not her customers (and were not even in the same country as her business; she is in the process of getting them removed but it is surprisingly slow and awful).
Obviously her situation wasn't Glassdoor since it was customer reviews, but still a large pile all at once is either this sort of sabotage, or… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 12:30 PM on July 24, 2017
Terrific pull-out sleeper sofa suggestions, please?
I just gave up my Friheten from IKEA. I had it for 3 years, and for the last one used it as my always-bed. It is Queen size, and I found the section where you can put your feet up to be very comfortable for reading.
I gave it up because I am moving overseas soon, and I can just buy it again if I miss it. (Waiting to get a house first so we can figure out the furniture we need).
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 11:14 AM on July 23, 2017
What could I wear that ISN'T clothes? (Creative costume filter)
Also make sure bits won't fall off. Don't want to moop.
That having been said, balsa wood is lightweight and strong. Could make some interesting sleeves.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 5:29 PM on July 15, 2017
I struggle to *sit normally*. How to handle working in an office?
I am five foot eight and need a footrest. It isn't just about your height; it is about the height of your desk, monitor, keyboard location, femur and torso length, etc. I would suggest reading a few different online guides for ergonomics; there seems to be more than one school of thought and I have gotten conflicting advice (but tried a few different things until I found a setup that works for me).
I do also totally put my feet up on things, but I am a crass academic… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 2:00 PM on July 13, 2017
Where should I go to make money to put my brother through college?
As a permanent resident, your brother is very likely eligible for in-state tuition, and may be eligible for a whole host of scholarships. One way you can help him is to put him in touch with community groups in the US that can make sure he gets access to whatever he is eligible for. I'd have a search for country-specific organizations that are active where he lives.
It very well might be that the support your brother needs isn't monetary (it's not just paying for… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 6:13 AM on July 11, 2017
Just exactly how dangerous is Malm??
I've been over there as a day trip from Copenhagen, and yes, it felt quite safe. We visited this nice chocolate factory.
Also we randomly happened to hit the Malm? Gallery Night, where many art-related things are open until midnight; but that's in September so I think you'll miss it. We were out and about quite late and had a grand time without worrying about safety at all.
I'm not sure if the little mouse cafes are still around (I never… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 5:26 AM on July 11, 2017
I lived in New York, Troy. I know what a baggle is.
As an academic I've moved every 3 years or so for half my life now. And all of these were for positions I knew were going to be temporary. On the other hand, I never knew where I was going to go after the position was over, so it's not like I was going to go back "home" anywhere. So where have I lived? I count everywhere except the 10 week study abroad (that just seems too short, although I did have a bank account there).
On the other hand I do say bagel,… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 3:33 PM on July 10, 2017
Pain under left shoulder blade with exercise - does this happen to you?
Obviously you should see about the possible cardiac issues, I don't know anything at all about that, so don't let this comment dissuade you from getting that fully and completely checked out to your own satisfaction.
But I have minor scoliosis, and used to get a pain under my right shoulder blade that sounds quite similar. It got quite bad when I was a student (under extra stress and extra backpack), so I went in to see what could be done. I went to PT for a while, and… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 10:43 AM on July 10, 2017
What do you do about a yelling spouse?
How much did you try therapy? Again, did you try more than one therapist? More than one mode? Family therapy all together, as well as an individual therapist (both for you and separately for your wife)?
"Therapy wasn't helpful" sounds to me like you tried one thing, it didn't work, and then rather than try another thing you (and/or your wife) dismissed the entire enterprise.
What I'd suggest: you can't change your wife, all you can… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 2:18 AM on July 10, 2017 marked best answer
Cooling off in Rome
Do you include the various Catacombs among the "sites" you've seen? I haven't seen them in 2 decades so I can't recommend a particular tour, but they are certainly cooler than the city; also there are several different ones open to the public so even if you've been before it might be worth seeing a different one (I've never seen either of the two Jewish ones that are open, e.g.).
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 4:16 PM on July 7, 2017
Professor + Professor = a doomed relationship?
I can confirm k8t's suspicion that this is more challenging when it involves multiple deans. I start in August as a spousal hire in physics, my partner is already at the university as an engineer.
We've lived apart for 6 years, including the last 3 split between Europe/US. He'd tried before to get me a spousal position at his (R1) university, but it wasn't an option until I got a TT position of my own somewhere else (also R1), and that other place liked him (and me)… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 5:03 AM on July 7, 2017
Help me learn to end conversations
Since you sound like an academic, consider that many subtle conversation-enders are not universal across cultures. I don't usually have this problem in the US (where I am from), but I've now lived 3 years in Denmark, and at first I ran into it all the time. Especially bad was the "If you need any more information from me, please let me know." It seemed to trigger a conversational search in order to let me know *right away* if anything was missing. Eventually I must have learned to… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 4:17 PM on July 5, 2017 marked best answer
Nonsensical gibberish songs that mimic foreign languages
Slightly different but not entirely unrelated are the Adiemus albums, by Karl Jenkins; I have only heard a version done by the Stanford a capella group Talisman, which I can't find online right now. But the basic idea is nonsense syllables meant for their musicality more than anything else. On late preview, already mentioned above, but definitely worth checking out!
There is also the phenomenon of nonsense syllables in several musical traditions, some of which may… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 8:00 AM on July 3, 2017
Suddenly, you know they are real, they mean it!
A little older, but still definitely "found" lyrics and still quite popular, is Carmina Burana.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 5:15 AM on July 3, 2017
Tips for getting un-intimidated by bouldering
I started climbing over a decade ago, but didn't switch to bouldering until a couple years later. It did take me some time to feel comfortable, especially because the first gym I was at had a pretty bro-y atmsophere in the bouldering rooms.
Where I learned to love it was a place with a much better atmosphere. And also I went during uncrowded hours in the morning, with a couple of fellow grad students. Bouldering is great for people doing long projects (like research)… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 4:18 PM on June 23, 2017
New Supervisor Needs Tips on Teaching Interpersonal Skills
In addition to generic communication issues, you might also have a think if there's something underlying *which* people he interrupts or calls without a title. Is it more frequently women (e.g. "Mary") that he does these things to? If so, it might be worth calling that out directly.
Regarding interruptions, if they occur when you are also present, you can call them out immediately but not directly by asking the person who got interrupted to finish their thought.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 7:01 AM on June 20, 2017
How can I set attainable life goals and build a future for myself?
I am a science academic myself, and definitely worried about my future job prospects at your age. In my subfield there is no industry to go work in. The older I got the more worried I got about a getting a prof job (until somehow I got very lucky this last year).
But along the way, during my second postdoc position, I had a housemate who was an English lit phd student. They had what I think is the best attitude towards being a grad student in a field with very few… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 9:15 PM on June 8, 2017
Seeing estranged parent at sibling's wedding - not sure how to cope
Can you have someone to run interference for you? If you're going alone, perhaps there is a family member not directly involved in the wedding (cousin, other sibling, etc), who can step in if your dad does try to talk with you. Having a plan for what you'll do might make you feel better about it.
And nthing that you should check with your brother and mother to see if they really will be upset. Assuming they care for you, they won't want to put you in a situation that… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 5:18 AM on June 6, 2017
I feel bullied; he feels confident
Personally I would pity the guy. What a mess of toxic masculinity he must be to think "men must do X" and to try to defend that position. He has blocked himself off from any coping mechanism or way of understanding/interacting with the world that doesn't fit his sadly narrow viewpoint.
Probably telling him you pity him isn't a wise idea, but knowing it inside might help with the disengaging other posters have encouraged.
Also, does… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 8:08 AM on June 5, 2017 marked best answer
How best to handle loans between partners?
I've done this, but even though he insisted he would pay it back, in my head I thought of it as a gift (he was paying back enough education debt to finish his degree, to me it was clearly a good use of the money and I was going to be ok without it; the amount was much smaller than your total). It was still a challenge as I hit harder times in the next year, and he wasn't in a position to pay me back (I did not expect it, but he felt like he owed me anyhow).
The relationship… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 9:16 AM on May 1, 2017
Your Go-to Doodle
I doodle fractals. Sierpinski triangle, Koch islands, Peano curves.
I also have a goofy face I will draw that's just two eyeballs and a nose, as well as a space-filling curve that's smooth and informal-- like you might do when piping icing on a cake. Oh, and various simple shapes shaded (sphere, cone, cube, ribbons folding back and forth, etc).
I generally doodle to keep myself awake-- which could be during a seminar in which I've lost the plot… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nat at 10:07 PM on April 30, 2017