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The Parentified Child


Someone left the cake out in the rain.


The Times Doesn’t Know Where Nazis Come From, But The Internet Does

On Nov. 25th the NYT published ‘A Voice of Hate in America’s Heartland’, a profile of white nationalist Tony Hovater that, in the Times own words, ‘has drawn significant feedback, most of it sharply critical.‘ Criticism included failure to fact check or confront Hovater’s claims (‘Here Are Some Facts And Questions About That Nazi The New York Times Failed To Note’- Splinter News), briefly linking to a Nazi merchandise store, normalizing white nationalism ( ‘New York Times Faces Back Lash Over Half-Basked Profile’ - Washington Post), and a failure to understand where these young men are being radicalized into far-right groups ( ‘The online ecosystem that supports and nurtures white nationalists..’ - Buzzfeed cw: Nazi imagery, hate speech.)
posted by The Whelk to MetaFilter on Nov 28 at 7:49 AM
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What does self care mean?

True self-care is not salt baths and chocolate cake, it is making the choice to build a life you don’t need to regularly escape from.
posted by AFABulous to MetaFilter on Nov 22 at 7:18 PM
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Best Books of The Year Lists. All of them.


The educational technology revolution is over.

Laptops are great. But not during a lecture or meeting. In a series of experiments at Princeton University and the University of California, Los Angeles, students were randomly assigned either laptops or pen and paper for note-taking at a lecture. Those who had used laptops had substantially worse understanding of the lecture, as measured by a standardized test, than those who did not.
posted by mecran01 to MetaFilter on Nov 28 at 10:18 AM
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"Parents like me often feel betrayed"

Every Parent Wants to Protect Their Child. I Never Got the Chance. To fight for my son, I have to argue that he should never have been born. - Jen Gann "But if you had known, what then? a woman asked me earlier this year, shaking her head, her smile soft with pity. If I responded at all, and I’m not sure I did, I can’t remember what I said. But I know I did not use the word abortion, or bring up our legal situation, or explain the concept of “wrongful birth.” In a roomful of people I barely knew, with Dudley pushing a plastic car back and forth over the carpet nearby, I did not tell her that I do know exactly what it is I would have done."
posted by the man of twists and turns to MetaFilter on Nov 27 at 3:46 PM
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A Dress Code For The Mind


Disability in rural America


An Unexpected Honor

When Ursula Vernon’s The Tomato Thief won the 2017 Hugo Award for Best Novelette, she gave an acceptance speech the likes of which you’ve never heard.
Well. This is an unexpected honor. My fellow winners have said some very meaningful things up here on the stage tonight. I want to talk to you about dead whales.

posted by Lexica to MetaFilter on Nov 29 at 6:18 PM
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Music is a time machine

“I was struck by an emotion so powerful and raw that I had a hard time identifying it at first: grief. I sood there in that ecstatic crowd and mourned. I mourned all of us dumb kids. I mourned our graying hair and slackening bodies. I mourned some unnameable forgotten truth I used to know. I mourned Harold. I'd thought I was there for nostalgia; turns out I was there for an opportunity to grieve that I didn't know I'd needed”
Young and Dumb Inside (SLNewYorker), a comic by Emily Flake about an adolescence spent in an underground music scene, and the mid-life nostalgia of the former kids to whom music meant everything.
posted by acb to MetaFilter on Nov 28 at 4:59 PM
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"Everyone is a competitor"

There’s precedent for Amazon competing with so many companies. It doesn’t end well. (Michael J. Coren, Quartz)
[…] Amazon’s unprecedented logistics and delivery infrastructure, paired with access to personal data about Americans’ purchasing habits, means it is unique in the history of global commerce. No company has ever wielded this combination of consumer insight and infrastructure, say historians and legal analysts, which means the company grows stronger and less assailable with every purchase.

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BREAKING: Successful actress Meghan Markle to wed former soldier

"Outside of her day job, Markle is involved in a number of humanitarian projects. She has worked as a United Nations ambassador, visiting Rwanda and India, and written a powerful essay on combating the stigma surrounding menstruation. Windsor is a 33-year-old former soldier, having served in Helmand, Afghanistan with the Army Air Corps. He is currently unemployed but does charity work."
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Then they all say sorry a lot

The Martians Claim Canada - a short satire of settler-colonialism written and illustrated by Margaret Atwood.
posted by Rumple to MetaFilter on Nov 27 at 1:23 PM
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So I called the scammers back.

“Six months ago, I got a phone call from someone pretending to be Apple Computers. And, just through sheer force of will, and I guess a lot of free time, me and Damiano managed to figure out a lot about these people.” A story of friendship, sleuthing, and scamming. Full transcript available at the bottom of the page.
posted by Grandysaur to MetaFilter on Nov 23 at 7:42 PM
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"I want to see the seashells in the bathrooms people"


A public utility for the benefit of all Americans

“Last Tuesday, the Federal Communications Commission, led by deregulation zealot Ajit Pai, presented a plan to dismantle net neutrality in America. Not only must we fight to prevent that from happening, we must ensure it can never happen again.“ Nationalize The Internet - Brendan Gallagher, Daily Dot.
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Science is what you know, philosophy is what you don't know


Inspired by a true story


"If I touch Henry’s leash, [Baloo] will start screaming at the door."


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It was a dreadful story. Even as it was being published, the author was writing that he felt he had failed the story's essential mission, which was to understand how ploddingly ordinary people get normalized. I'm sorry, but this is a very complicated subject, and you don't send somebody with no experience to cover it. The NY Times has an Isis... [more]
posted by maxsparber to MetaFilter on Nov 28 at 8:39 AM
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" I have definitely spent the last year watching people be Midwestern nice about attitudes that I think should be completely beyond the pale. I'd like to think that wouldn't extend to outright Nazism, but I'm no longer super confident about that" Oh, there definitely are, although I think a lot of people are Midwestern nice... [more]
posted by Eyebrows McGee to MetaFilter on Nov 25 at 7:21 PM
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In which the Washington Post follows the old adage "if you catch your source lying to you, that's the story": A woman approached The Post with dramatic — and false — tale about Roy Moore. She appears to be part of undercover sting operation. The Post stung back: A woman who falsely claimed to The Washington Post that Roy Moore, the... [more]
posted by zachlipton to MetaFilter on Nov 27 at 1:45 PM
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"Can someone explain it?" Okay, I looked up the survey, and YES. It's in the context of about a dozen questions centered around different theologies of chastity and virginity, trying to suss out which proposed theologies (some quite ancient and some quite modern; some fully orthodox and others a bit hinky) the sisters agree... [more]
posted by Eyebrows McGee to MetaFilter on Nov 27 at 8:06 AM
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Meditation and yoga classes were offered during the workday. Companywide meetings, known as “Y’all Hands,” featured musical performances by employees. New mothers and fathers got six months of fully paid parental leave. The parental leave bit is quite a record-scratch moment there. For context legal entitlement to maternity leave in my... [more]
posted by Catseye to MetaFilter on Nov 27 at 2:45 AM
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What a terrible title for an otherwise interesting article. What it really seems to be showing is that people have a finite amount of bandwidth for understanding a story and thus, when they get cues that the story is happening in a world they don't understand, the attention they pay towards building a model of that world of necessity results in a... [more]
posted by 256 to MetaFilter on Nov 24 at 6:18 AM
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Capitalism doesn't have to mix with anything. Everything has to mix with capitalism. Like it or not. It may interest you to learn that capitalism is neither a law of nature nor a commandment of a deity, but rather a structure created by and for human beings. Capitalism exists to serve the people, not the people capitalism, and if you... [more]
posted by praemunire to MetaFilter on Nov 26 at 10:35 PM
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Maybe it’s because I grew up as the only Jew in my class (sometimes my whole school). Maybe it’s because I’m someone who was held down on the bus so kids could feel my head for horns. Or maybe it’s from all the students who would draw swastikas on my school books and call me a stupid Jew (in front of teachers!) and then get me suspended when I... [more]
posted by cyphill to MetaFilter on Nov 25 at 5:13 PM
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The owners at 571 Grill and Draft House deserve endless praise for their swift action in terminating this guy. Almost forgot, it's time for another round... All together now: ?? If you're a nazi and you're fired, it's your fault! ???? If you're a nazi and you're fired, it's your fault! ???? If you were spotted in the mob,... [more]
posted by tivalasvegas to MetaFilter on Nov 27 at 7:04 PM
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We should have a contest as to which of the Networks, plus CNN and not including Fox, is the most dishonest, corrupt and/or distorted in its political coverage of your favorite President (me) We should have a contest where the winner of the popular vote is elected President. [view]
posted by inflatablekiwi to MetaFilter on Nov 27 at 7:33 AM
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ALSO, and having exercised my Nazi-related outrage in the past hour, this trashfire of a NYT article is full of the snide coastal elitism. "in person, his Midwestern manners would please anyone’s mother." FUCK. YOU. He let loose any ONE of those sentences around my manners-valuing confrontation-avoiding Midwestern mother and she would... [more]
posted by Eyebrows McGee to MetaFilter on Nov 25 at 5:21 PM
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@JuliusGoat Trump's rage-tweeting at @ThePlumLineGS's tweet about how Trump rage-tweets is a gorgeous dark gem, a perfectly-constructed oroboros of unfitness. The fun thing about saying "Make America Great Again" is that there is literally no time in our past you can be referencing that wouldn't be more systemically unfair against all... [more]
posted by chris24 to MetaFilter on Nov 24 at 5:41 AM
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One of the reasons this shit is so fucking terrible is that while overt Nazis are still somewhat few in number, about 30% of the population are de facto Nazis, racist fascists who share much of the ideology of Ohio Nazi without the honesty to admit it. @JYSexton "With Trump's base showing strong preferences for authoritarianism, and... [more]
posted by chris24 to MetaFilter on Nov 25 at 6:48 PM
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@AndyRichter Seems like a lot of writers think it’s liberals’ job to sort out the Nazis from the conservatives. Are you a conservative who’s made sad by being lumped in w Nazis? Well, clean your fucking house. And be loud about it. [view]
posted by chris24 to MetaFilter on Nov 26 at 1:40 PM
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Apparently the New York Times has mentioned or quoted Hovater's buddy Matthew Heimbach 22 times in the last year, which is honestly incredible. He could not be getting more press for his tiny enclave of Nazis if he were paying for it. That level of coverage is equal to or greater than most people in Congress. There are a lot of problems here,... [more]
posted by Copronymus to MetaFilter on Nov 28 at 8:11 AM
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This is why families with huge numbers of siblings like the Duggars piss me off. No one person is capable of handling the needs of so many young children, so it's the older children who are handed most of the thankless acts of parenting. No time for a social life or free time or sports -- you've got to diaper and bathe and feed and cuddle all the... [more]
posted by jfwlucy to MetaFilter on Nov 28 at 4:22 AM
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Even for me, this tweetstorm is too much to post here in it's entirety, but it's a great breakdown and list with supporting links and info of what the Times could've done to make the Nazi article do what they claim they wanted to do. Some snippets... 1/ The NYTimes is densely defending their article by claiming it was intended to shed light... [more]
posted by chris24 to MetaFilter on Nov 26 at 2:48 PM
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I stand in awe of you, you MeFites who trust us enough to tell your stories. Thank you. [view]
posted by workerant to MetaFilter on Nov 27 at 7:38 PM
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If you are not a liberal at 20, you have no heart. If you are not a conservative at 40+, you paid attention and learned things when you were 20. [view]
posted by delfin to MetaFilter on Nov 29 at 9:34 AM
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So, it's thanksgiving, and I'm slightly tootled while waiting for Turkey to rest, and I thought I'd share my coast guard story. Because I am thankful for them. When my son was five, he and I got got in a rip tide, on a paddleboard, and pulled into the shipping lanes. It was terrifying. I dislocated my knee, and had fallen off the board, without a... [more]
posted by SecretAgentSockpuppet to MetaFilter on Nov 23 at 3:51 PM
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